You’ve smashed your wedding planning – maybe you used one of our blogs to help – and you’ve sorted all of the last-minute details, which means there’s nothing left to do other than actually get married! Your wedding day is only round the corner, and you’ve probably got a thousand different things running through your head, from timings to catering to guests to centrepieces to the readings and beyond – which is completely understandable! When it gets to the day itself you might find there’s so much going on that it’ll all be over in a complete blur. With that in mind, we’ve put together these 10 Things to Remember on your Wedding Day, to help make the day as special, as enjoyable and as memorable as possible.
You’re probably going to want to do most things yourself – it’s only natural to want to feel in control on one of the biggest days of your life – but trust us when we say this will quickly get overwhelming. With so much going on, you’ll need to delegate. This could be guest management, timekeeping, helping with setting up and meeting and greeting – essentially those on-the-day tasks that you’ll be far too busy to do yourself. Just try not to dump everything onto one person. Spread the right roles out to the right people. Groomsmen and bridesmaids can be on-the-day coordinators, rounding up guests for photos, meeting and greeting, and directing people to the right areas. Family members – like your mum – will love to be involved, even if it’s something as simple as being responsible for looking after your handbag, while your Maid of Honour will be your go-to girl; a one person checklist that will help make sure you have everything you need, who can also be dispatched to put out any ‘fires’ that might crop up on the day.
It might seem hard, but taking a step back and putting other people in charge will help you relax and actually enjoy your day!
Bring your Emergency Kit
We mentioned this in our 10 Last Minute Tasks to do Before Your Lake District Wedding post, but it bears repeating: prepare (and bring!) an emergency day kit, full of all the little things you might need in the event of any mishaps. You don’t want to find yourself having to run out and buy something you realised you need at the last minute! Plasters, hair pins, spare earring backs, a sewing kit, baby wipes, wine-spot remover, tissues, paracetamol, mini deodorant, tampons and pads, breath mints – cover all the bases! You can put someone trustworthy in charge of the kit (delegation!) or leave it in an easy to remember (and access) place. Hopefully you won’t need it, but just knowing you’re prepared for any accidents will give you peace of mind and one less thing to worry about.
Let’s face it, there’s going to be a LOT going on on your wedding day, but don’t let that stop you remembering one of your most important tasks – eating! It’s going to be an amazing day, but it’s also going to be a LONG one, so you need to get plenty of food on board to keep you going. Even if the nerves are at you in the morning try your best to eat a full breakfast, and eat plenty of carbs too. Once the day is in full swing you also need to make sure you don’t get overwhelmed by everything and forget to refuel! When you’re having the meal at your reception make sure you get a plate of food, and give yourself at least five minutes to actually eat.
Make sure you have plenty to drink, too – and we’re not talking about alcohol here! It’s vitally important to stay hydrated – it’s a busy job being a bride and groom, and you need to keep yourself topped up with water through the day. It’s also a good idea to limit your alcohol consumption too. Your wedding is going to be a blur anyway so you’ll want to remember as much as you can, not end up with a drunken haze. Keep in mind, too, that even when making a conscious effort to eat, you’re still likely to have eaten less than normal so your limits will be lower than usual.
Take a Moment for Yourselves
Your wedding will be an absolute whirlwind, and with so much going on it often turns out that you don’t get to actually really speak to your partner until it’s all over! Try to steal away a moment with each other – just each other – away from everything else. This could be something you put into your schedule in advance, or you could make it more spontaneous – have one of your bridesmaids pass a note to a groomsman to give to your partner with where to meet you. Those few minutes alone with your new husband or wife where you can just have a chat, share the excitement and let everything sink in (and maybe grab a quick smooch!) will be one of your favourite parts of the day. After all, that’s what your wedding day is all about, the two of you.
Stay on Schedule
You’ve been planning this day for months, if not years, so do your best to stick to the schedule you’ve worked out in advance. This doesn’t mean stressing about keeping to the exact times, crossing them off one by one, though. In fact, the reason you have the plan is to take the stress out of the day – the plan you’ve drawn up should let the day run seamlessly, and you should have factored plenty of time and padding in between each part of the day. It’s easy to get lost in the moment though, so make sure a parent, groomsman, your maid-of-honour or anyone else in the bridal party knows the schedule too – that way they can remind you or give you a gentle nudge when it’s time to cut the cake, go for photos, have the first dance or anything else you’ve got planned.
Surprise your Spouse
Giving each other one final surprise the morning of the wedding is one of our favourite customs. Not only does it help settle your partner’s nerves and make them feel extra loved, it’s also a great way of sending a little message – unspoken or otherwise – to them as you get ready separately. This could be a letter filled with all the reasons you love them, your favourite memories and why you’re so excited to get married, it could be a little gift for them to wear on the day like perfume or cuff-links, or it could even be a little breakfast hamper stashed away in their room filled with their favourite things to enjoy while they get ready.
Say Thank You
It sounds obvious, but remember to thank people – those that have supported you in the lead up to the big day, your friends and family that pitched in with planning, your bridesmaids for attending all of those wedding fairs with you, your guests for sharing in your day. You’d be surprised how easy it can be to forget to do this on the day, with so much going on and so many different people to talk to. So spend as much time with as many different people you love as you can, say hi, have a chat, and thank them – if you’ve invited them to your wedding, then they’re clearly someone you want to spend time with. Make sure to give extra special thanks to those closest to you, your maid of honour and bridesmaids especially, or your best man and groomsmen. One more thing – thank your vendors too!
Make Some Time for your Parents
This is a big day for those closest to you too. If you’re fortunate enough to have your parents around, make the time to spend some quality time with them – a first look, a chat and a drink and a hug, a toast, a dance, maybe even give them a special gift to thank them for all they’ve done for you. Take a moment to really cherish what this occasion means for both you and them.
Enjoy the Moment
It might seem a bit rich saying this after giving you 9 different things to have rattling around your head, but this is probably the most important advice of all – relax, take it all in, and enjoy the day. Your wedding day will fly by in an absolute blur, so make the most of every moment. Don’t spend your time worrying about details, and instead make a conscious effort be fully present and in the moment. Dance, eat, drink, be merry, have fun, and slow down so you have the time to remember individual moments and how you feel. This is a celebration of the love between you and your spouse, with all the people you love most in the world – so enjoy it!
Just getting started and need planning advice? We’ve got you covered! Our Easy Guide to Planning Your Lake District Wedding has all you need to know: Click here for Part One, Part Two and Part Three. We’ve also got guides to Choosing Your Wedding Colours and Finding Your Wedding Theme – and if you’re planning a winter wedding we’ve put together a list of things for you to keep in mind too, just click here.
Looking for the perfect Lake District summer wedding venue? Come and take a look at what we offer at New House Farm. Our beautiful lakeside location and rustic Hayloft Barn makes for the perfect fairytale wedding! To arrange a viewing please contact Hazel on: 07841159818.