There are a few old rules about wedding hats, from when to wear them and how to wear them, to what shape might be appropriate and how they can match your body shape. This is quite a long post, so it’s divided into two slightly more appetizing parts. Don’t be surprised if you haven’t heard of all of these rules though – a lot of modern weddings don’t adhere to them. However, if you’re wanting the most traditional wedding you can have, you might be considering some of these etiquette rules. Don’t worry if you don’t though, most people prefer to make up their own rules and work their own styles. It’s your big day, after all!
Just remember that it’s very important to let your guests know of any dress code rules at least six weeks in advance. If you’re dreaming of specific headpiece styles or uniform fascinators, it’s really important your guests know about this as soon as possible. While many of us are infamous for scraping everything together at the last minute, there’s plenty of people who like to get their wedding attire organised up to months in advance – which is hugely considerate of you and partner, obviously – so make sure they don’t need to rush out and buy a new hat at the last minute.
If it’s the bride’s family who are hosting the wedding, it’s traditional for the groom’s mother to choose a hat that is smaller than the bride’s mother’s. This is based on the age-old rule of not outshining your hosts, and crosses many a social situation. If both the bride and the groom are hosting the wedding, which is likely the case nowadays, the mothers can wear hats of the same size.
With regard to photographs it’s still a good idea to be aware of guests not choosing wedding hats that drown their heads and faces. The wedding photographer should be quite comfortable in asking guests to rearrange their headpieces in group photographs, so that they don’t obscure their own faces or those of others. It might be an idea to carefully remind your guests to choose their hats with this in mind. The last thing you want is wedding pictures where your family or friends are hidden away behind a rather huge and very grand creation, not matter how beautiful it may be.
Traditionally, when decorating a hatband, or indeed your bridal headpiece, with flowers, feathers or any other embellishment, ladies should decorate theirs on the right hand side as opposed to men, who traditionally decorate on the left.